Question: Does a day at the beach sometimes feel like anything but? Is it often tinged for you with negative body talk, comparison, and envy? Do you stop yourself from wearing, being, and doing what you’d really long to do because of body shame?
If any of this sounds familiar, this post is for you!
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Recently, I had the most unusual day at the beach, one that I had longed for and even came close to experiencing so many times in the not so distant past, but in my heart of hearts, knew I hadn’t fully embodied.
Here in the U.S., we equate July with Freedom (did you have a great 4th?), and it’s the month where my readers and I annually explore and celebrate Body Freedom.
As I’ve said before, we can’t truly know freedom until we know what it feels like to feel free in our one true home, our bodies!
Since food is essential for our bodies, and since food and body freedom are tied in complex ways, I thought I would spend some time exploring what it really means to have Food Freedom.
If you are or were anything like how I was for a long time, I equated “Food Freedom” with being able to eat all the pizza, doughnuts, cake, ice cream, and other highly processed foods in great abundance and never gain a pound.
That was my ultimate Food Freedom Fantasy.
But little did I know that I was fantasying about a very limited and false sense of freedom.
In my first audio-blog (perhaps podcast #1?), I explore what Food Freedom REALLY is and what it surely ain’t!
I hope you enjoy this and let me know what you think. If you enjoy getting your Body-Food Relationship info this way, I’ll do more! And if you have a question you would LOVE me to answer, email me at Anita@AnitaAvalos.com with the subject line “Question for YOU” in the subject line. I’d love to answer it!
An old “friend” came to visit last week…and to be honest, it made me uneasy, brought me back to a place I have worked so very hard to move past.
A day of working from home put me back in touch with an old fear of appetite, of wrestling with an inner debate of what to eat, when to eat, how much to eat, etc.
At first, it slightly terrified me, because when this happens, it is not only the inner debate about food that shows up, but also an enormous side of judgment…mainly being that I should no longer have my “food issues” popping up since I coach others on how to set themselves free from such inner debates and struggles and find a more loving, peaceful relationship with food and their bodies.
But here’s the beautiful and deeply honest thing about that…
I have never claimed that working on your relationship to body and food will ensure that old behaviors and thoughts won’t at times come knocking on your door.
That has not been my experience.
However, what DOES change is how you greet them, how frequently they try to come on over, and how long their visit lasts.
What I have learned over the years is that a healthy dose of compassion and curiosity transforms those visits entirely. [click to continue…]
(Reminder! Our next LA Workshop will be Sunday, March 29th, from 4-6 pm, The Art of the Sensual Woman: A Workshop in Self-Care and Intuition through the Senses. For more info or to register, please see info at the end of this article).
One of the scariest things for many of my clients (and for many women in general) is for them to learn to trust (and listen to) their appetites.
Coming out of the dark cloud of chronic dieting and the outdated, flawed, and toxic weight-loss philosophy of “eat less to lose more”, feeding a hungry appetite can overwhelm them with fear, self-loathing, and feelings of failure.
After all, they’ve been told that in order to lose weight and avoid further weight gain, they must control their appetite, fight their appetite, and push down the body’s promptings to eat.
Let me free you from that toxic belief…it’s not true.
Appetite is a gift.
Appetite is natural. It’s necessary. It’s part of being human and is built into your physical makeup to keep you alive.
Per my promise to you, I am beginning to hold a monthly, donation-based workshop/class on the last Wednesday of every month right here in LA.
I am so excited about this and I hope you are too!
It’s been my dream to create a sense of community amongst women, to give support and guidance in different avenues, and create a space where women can support each other on their paths to living their most optimal lives.
And to me, there’s nothing quite like a group of like-minded women joining together LIVE to make that happen. As women, we are born communicators and connecters. We love sharing our best tips, we gain strength in sharing our struggles,and blossom when we come out of isolation.